Is this a cliche? In the beginning of a relationship, haven't we all been hopeless and said to ourselves that he/she is the one? There are so many factors as to why an overwhelming percentage of relationships/marraiges end up as failures. At the top of my head the ones that stand out are jealousy, money, lonliness and adultery. What about True Love? If it exists, does it get you through the tough times, or do we just suck it up and fight through it? I think it's a little of both. All I can offer is my perspective which is guided by my belief in Christianity which it's teachings help me through all aspects of my life.
When I go through troubles with my wife, I always think back to that first day we met. Of course we all go by our attraction first, and yes my wife was and still is beautiful. But what struck me that day was her sincerity, shyness and laugh. I don't believe in Love at First Sight, but what I do believe is that there is a connection at first sight. After that connection it is up to us to see where it goes. We decide what matters to us most. Is it sex? Is it conversation? Is it their looks? At that time, I didn't care for faith or a belief in God. And for the record, you don't need to have a faith in anything to have a loving and successful relationship. My belief and knowledge however tells me that our connections are put here for us. How we move forward with them is for us to decide and every decision leads us in a direction in our continued journey.
After that first day, my Wife and I talked all the time and got to know each other to the point where both of us would consider each other good friends. I knew I loved her when we were friends and I'm thankful that she took a chance on me and we have what I would call a fantastic marraige with wonderful Children.
Obviously over time, I became to Know God and take up a huge interest in learning the Teachings of Christ. What I have learned from those teachings regarding not just my Marraige but relationships in general was an eye opener. I have time and again spoken and written about the neccessity to follow the Two Most Important Commandments in order to understand and follow the teachings. You start to understand what the route of the problems are in relationships. It's insecurity. As humans, it's natural for us to be insecure about a lot of things. When that insecurity shows itself, usually it's accompanied by actions that we regret. The Teachings help in giving you that security you need. Before the detractors mention after life, it's not about that. I'm not heading there in this post. The security is Love. When Love is the characteristic that guides you in your life with everyone, what do you have to be insecure about? People will break that unconditional trust. People will take advantage of that Love, but the Teachings already tell you that may happen, and under no circumstances are you to let selfishness and ego get in the way.
Why? Because more often than not, people will react the way you treat them. This is no different in Reltionships. Again, Atheists, Agnostics and people from all faiths have successful marraiges and relationships. What I am talking about is understanding them. And the Teachings when followed correctly gives you that understanding.
I don't know if there is such a thing as True Love, but what I do know, is that Love is True.